Having a great friendship, just like any other relationship, takes work and intentionality. Time needs to be scheduled, conversations need to be truly listened to and tough or important situations need to be kept in mind. Due to our humanity, relationships can get messy, but that doesn’t mean we avoid them. True friendships are needed, so here’s some information regarding the keys to having successful friendships.
As mentioned, we are only human; we have emotions, selfishness and other gunky stuff that can threaten to destroy a friendship even before it gets going.
- Schedule time. Good, established friendships can go for a while between visits and, when you get together, pick right back up as if nothing was missed. However, it doesn’t mean you should let time lapse. Life gets busy, but make sure to get something in the books—in ink—at least once a quarter. Weekly texts or phone calls work, of course, but friendships that are going to last require a face-to-face get together every so often.
- Don’t gossip or share secrets. Us women tend to talk, but make it a habit not to talk about those we consider friends.
- Show interest in their lives. Have you ever had that one friend who constantly talked about themselves the entire time you were together? Don’t be that friend.
- Celebrate her successes. When she lands a fantastic job, or seems to have the perfect guy—be happy for her.
- Show her you care—listen and follow up. It is so refreshing when your friends circle back around to what was going on in your lives when you last spoke. It means they listened. Asking how things are with a prior tough situation or asking about an important event that happened, really goes a long way.
- Give gifts that are personal. When her birthday rolls around, give her a gift that represents her personality or something you both did together. Another thing that shows you appreciate her would be to pick up a card about friendship, personalize it with a short message and drop it in the mail.
These are just a few tips that go a long way. Enjoy building those treasured friendships.