Parenting is difficult for everyone, but for those choosing to parent when facing an unplanned pregnancy for whatever reason, it can seem overwhelming. There are a lot of expectations that exist around parenting. These can include both positive and negative points, depending on your unique concerns and circumstances. This post will discuss some of these expectations and how reality is often different from what you might expect or assume.
“I HAVE TO DO IT ALONE”
If you’re pregnant and single or without family support, you may think that you have to figure out parenting all by yourself. This can make the process of deciding to parent all the more daunting. However, this is a misconception. It is possible to be supported, encouraged, and loved throughout your parenting journey – even if it doesn’t feel like it now. For more information, ask about some of our recommended resources at your free consultation.
“IT’S TOO EXPENSIVE”
One of the most popular concerns about deciding to parent is the cost. While it can be expensive to raise a child, much of the concerns around cost depend on the kinds of things you plan to spend money on. There are also ways to be creative about lowering the expense as well. For example, childcare vouchers are available if finances are an issue. WIC and other government-funded programs may also be helpful. For other creative ways to save some money, take advantage of selling platforms like Facebook Marketplace. Many parents use these sites to sell or even give away clothes, toys, and sometimes even furniture, although it’s important to keep safety in mind when purchasing any pre-owned cribs. IKEA has some affordable, simple, and stylish crib options that are perfect for any space.
“I WON’T BE ABLE TO LIVE MY LIFE”
A final expectation about parenting is that many women believe it signals the end of their lives as they know it. In all honesty, parenting is a big change for everyone. It can feel scary and overwhelming, especially as you and your baby learn about each other. Despite what you may have been told, you can still live life after having a baby. If you’re worried about not starting or finishing school, there may be options to take classes online, especially after the impact of the coronavirus pandemic. You can still meet up with friends with your baby or while someone you trust watches them for a few hours. A baby does not take away from your ability to enjoy life – they just add another layer of fun!
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