February 10, 2026 Finding out you’re pregnant can feel overwhelming. When your partner’s first response is, “I think you should get an abortion,” it can make everything even heavier. Maybe that conversation didn’t go the way you hoped. Maybe you’re still trying to figure out how you feel – while he seems convinced he knows what the “right choice” is. If this sounds familiar, take a breath. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to rush into a decision. Unexpected pregnancy brings up a lot of questions. Is he scared? Does he feel unprepared or worried about losing freedom? Is he assuming abortion is what you want? Or is he truly opposed to continuing the pregnancy? Before you can move forward, it’s important to slow down and sort through what’s really going on – for both of you. Start With Honest Conversation As hard as it can be, keeping communication open matters. Sometimes a partner pushes for abortion because he thinks that’s expected or because he doesn’t know how to handle his fear. Have you had the chance to share your own thoughts and emotions? You deserve space to talk about what you’re feeling without being pressured. Ask yourself: • Do I feel heard and respected? • Am I afraid to disagree with him? • Does he listen, or does he shut me down? Your answers can tell you a lot – not just about this pregnancy, but about the health of your relationship. Is Your Relationship Supportive? It’s normal to want both emotional and practical support during pregnancy. But support doesn’t have to come from just one person. Even if your relationship feels uncertain, you can still build a strong support system through friends, family, and community resources. That said, it’s important to be honest about whether your relationship is healthy. If you’re worried about angry outbursts, controlling behavior, or feeling unsafe bringing up your feelings, those are serious concerns. Fear is not a healthy part of any relationship. You Have Options – and You Have Rights No one can force you to have an abortion. This decision belongs to you. At Clearway Clinic, advocates are here to walk you through your options in a safe, non-judgmental space. We provide factual information about parenting, adoption, medical abortion, and surgical abortion so you can make an informed decision, not a pressured one. (Please note: Clearway does not provide or refer for abortion services.) If you’re unsure whether your partner’s behavior crosses into something unhealthy, talking with an advocate can help you recognize signs of emotional or physical abuse. It can be painful to consider that someone you care about might be controlling, but pressure to end a pregnancy you’re unsure about is something worth taking seriously. Your Safety Comes First There is a known connection between unplanned pregnancy, abortion, and intimate partner violence. This doesn’t mean every situation is abusive – but if you feel unsafe, your safety matters more than anything. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. If you need support or guidance, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or online. A Clearway Clinic advocate can also connect you with additional support and resources. What If You’re Afraid of Losing the Relationship? Sometimes women consider abortion mainly to keep their relationship. It can help to honestly look at all the possible outcomes: • Continue the pregnancy and stay together • Continue the pregnancy and separate • Have an abortion and stay together • Have an abortion and still lose the relationship While you can make a decision about your pregnancy, you can’t control someone else’s choices. Some women later share that ignoring their own feelings led to resentment and regret – especially when the relationship didn’t turn out the way they hoped. A helpful question to ask yourself is: In the future and looking back, which choice am I more likely to regret? You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone Your situation may feel complicated – and that’s okay. Clearway Clinic has supported hundreds of women facing all kinds of challenges. Whatever you’re carrying emotionally, there is help available. You are capable. You are not alone. And support is closer than you think. If you’re ready, reach out. We’re here for you. * Clearway Clinic does not provide or refer for abortion services.
